If you’re the parent of a newborn, toddler or older child, you may be thinking about naming a guardian for him or her. This can be a difficult decision, especially if you have many choices or, on the other hand, no one you can trust.
The following are answers to common questions about guardianship:
Q. How do I choose a guardian for my child?
A. In most cases involving a single parent or a parenting couple, you designate the guardian in a legally valid will. This means the guardian will raise your child if you (or you and your partner) should die unexpectedly. A similar provision may address incapacitation issues.
Choose the best person for the job and designate an alternate in case your first choice can’t fulfill the duties. Parents frequently name a married couple who are relatives or close friends. If you take this approach, ensure both spouses have legal authority to act on the child’s behalf.
Also, select someone who has the necessary time and resources for this immense responsibility. Although it’s usually not recommended, you can name different guardians for different children.
In addition, consider the living arrangements and the geographic area where your child would reside if the guardian assumed legal responsibilities. Do you really want to uproot your child and send him or her to live somewhere far away from familiar surroundings?
Q. Do I have to justify my decision?
A. No. However, it can’t hurt — and it could help — to prepare a letter of explanation for the benefit of any judge presiding over a guardianship matter for your family. The letter can provide insights into your choice of guardian.
Notably, the judge will apply a standard based on the child’s “best interests,” so you should explain why the guardian you’ve named is the optimal choice. Focus on aspects such as the child’s preferences, who can best meet the child’s needs, the moral and ethical character of the potential guardian, and the guardian’s relationship to the child.
Whether you’re naming a guardian for a child in your will or you’re attempting to become a guardian yourself, you must adhere to the legal principles under state and local law. Fortunately, we can provide any necessary guidance.
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